I’m a Quote Freak…

July 8, 2011 By Lauren and Tom
I’m a quote freak. I still have the same quote book that I started in high school and I’m still adding to it. It’s actually pretty cool to go back and read because you can see how my thoughts and interests change over time.  I saw this quote as a forward to a book I was reading shortly after The Crash and fell in love with it.  The words truly paint the picture of the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover”.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
This saying truly rang true to me in those darkest hours, days, weeks, months and still today after The Crash.  We are sometimes so quick to judge people and we don’t take the time to think about what they could be dealing with in their life. Someone who just lost a parent, is dealing with a break up, lost a job, dealing with serious health issues, can’t get pregnant and so many more of life’s bad moments. People have a way of putting on a smile and going about their lives even though inside they are experiencing the fight of their life.  Some may call the smile a shield, some may call it denial and others may just call it life. I personally call it survival. I’ve found all I can do at the hardest moments is smile and go about my day because I know letting the battle inside of me try and win is just going to consume my personality. Because honestly some days it’s just easier to say, “I’m great” or “I’m doing fine” instead of really saying how I feel. I know Tom and I were dealt a pretty shitty card and I think shitty is a nice word. But I also know everyone is fighting their own battle no matter how large or small.
I was reading two blogs that I follow yesterday and the one woman was talking about how she is still trying to adjust and love the scars she has on her chest from numerous health surgeries. Even though she has “moved on” with life and a few years have passed she still gets mad that she is only 26 years old and can’t wear certain dresses because of them.  When you see a picture of her, you have NO idea of the life story she has or the scars she is dealing with. She is a beautiful blonde with a smile always on her face but she has a battle to still fight on the inside. Another blog talked about how cheated she felt for having her mom killed when she was only in her early 20s. Even though she tries to look at the positive and all the years she did get with her mom, it still just plain sucks and this battle will never be over.
Reading these two women’s stories made me realize that even though life moves on after a tough situation you will never forget or be done fighting the battle inside.  Even as time passes there are still hard times to come.  Of course I’ve only mentioned some of the biggest shit cards that life can deal because well, Tom and I are dealing with the worst. But some people’s big battle may be trying to find the will to start exercising, or finding the courage to stand up for something he/she believes in or talking to a new person or whatever else.  Try to remember that even though a person may seem to have the perfect life, he or she is fighting their own battle, no matter how large or small.

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